Below is a link to my article published on goodtherapy.org. This article explores how our the many ways we adapt to pain, numbing, avoiding, getting angry, staying overly busy, all of these become our biggest strengths AND they also get in our own way. Many times the strategies that we use to survive pain become overdeveloped parts of ourselves, leaving other parts underdeveloped. “Honoring our armor” discusses the importance of truly understanding these parts of ourselves, developing a sense of compassion and even gratitude even for our most frustrating traits like anxiety or staying quiet. If we can see that at one time, they were actually adaptive and helpful, we can learn to be more integrated and whole.