One of my favorite mantras is “Care Deeply AND Don’t Give a Fuck” I have written a lot about it in previous blogs. I think it captures this beautiful tight rope we have to walk as humans between being mindful of our impact on others, attending to our relationships AND letting go of what other’s … Continue reading The Price of “Not Giving a Fu*k”
Do you ever feel as though you’re unable to control your emotions? Or that your emotions are “too much” for any one person to handle? Do you find that it’s easier to lean on “retail therapy” or other impulses rather than opening up and talking about your experience? Perhaps you’ve always struggled with the ability … Continue reading The Real Root Behind a Borderline Personality Disorder Diagnosis BY KRISTEN MCGEEHON
Politics, trauma, racism, sexism, all the other isms, assault, abuse- the outside world can seem brutal at times. These types of trauma can truly take a toll on our systems and can leave us feeling powerless. When we are children, we NEED caregivers and the outside world to help us learn to regulate our … Continue reading Reclaiming Your Power When the Outside World Is Just Wrong.
Check out my latest goodtherapy blog- this one’s particularly personal with Mother’s Day and the anniversary of my mom’s death coming up. This day can be so complicated for so many of us and the month's article explores the many ways this day could land for us. Perhaps it's a Day of celebration and joy, … Continue reading Mother’s Day and Mental Health
“I’m not enough. I don’t have enough. I don’t have enough time. I don’t have enough energy. I am not skinny enough, pretty enough, young enough, happy enough, grateful enough….” The list goes on and on if you struggle with scarcity mentality. As I was processing with a client who was struggling with some of … Continue reading Why Trauma Might be at the Root of Your Scarcity Mentality
Did You knot that April is Child Abuse Prevention Month? Here is a link to my article on goodtherapy.org that outlines five tips to talking to kids about sexual abuse. When we talk to our children calmly, openly and honestly about their bodies, we significantly reduce their chances of becoming victimized. Some of the key … Continue reading How to Talk to Kids About Sexual Abuse
When was the last time you made a really bad mistake? A week ago? Yesterday? Two minutes ago? We are all human and we all make mistakes. If you have a hard time owning when you make a mistake, it is likely that you were overly criticized, over-powered or expected to be perfect to feel … Continue reading 6 Steps to Take When You Make a Mistake
https://youtu.be/4bGYIH5KMQM First, a story. It’s back-to-school night and me, my partner (who is also a woman) and our two sons are introducing ourselves to other kids and families. One of the children says, “You can’t have two moms.” We say, “yes- all families look different. Kids can have two moms, two dads, or one parent, … Continue reading Should I talk to my young children about gay and transgender-identified people?
https://youtu.be/qTCCYLcQjWM When I was 20, I did not have children, I was single and I was managing a restaurant, which gave me plenty of expendable income and flexibility. I would make decisions in a flash. Decision-making was a skill that I took for granted. I would decide to go travel. I would decide to go … Continue reading There Are No Perfect Decisions: How to make “good enough” decisions instead.
Below is a link to my article published on goodtherapy.org. This article explores how our the many ways we adapt to pain, numbing, avoiding, getting angry, staying overly busy, all of these become our biggest strengths AND they also get in our own way. Many times the strategies that we use to survive pain become … Continue reading Honoring Our Armor