Many of us (myself included) have often said these well-meaning phrases. Things like “Let go and Let God,” “They’re (your loved ones who have died) are in a better place now,” “God doesn’t give you anymore than you can handle” are intended to “make people feel better,” but when they are in place of acknowledging … Continue reading “Everything Happens for a Reason,” “This too shall pass,” “Just Let it Go” and other forms of Spiritual Bypassing that Actually do More Harm Than Good.
It can be the thing that we most avoid, it can make us want to run away, shut down, lie, ignore people, drink too much wine and a host of other things. CONFLICT! It is BOUND TO HAPPEN in any relationship that is worth having however. If a relationship cannot withstand conflict, it is probably … Continue reading How to Have Healthier Conflict for Happier Relationships
Drama, drama, drama. You’re having the same argument for the third time this week (and the past 12 weeks), and you can’t seem to get past it. Maybe you’ve quit a third job in 6 months because you cannot seem to get along with your boss or coworkers. If you keep finding yourself in these … Continue reading Are you the Drama Addict?Guest Blog Kristen McGeehon
Ideally, we are supposed to grow up with loving and protective parents that are curious about who we really are, they nurture and support us, they teach us how to protect ourselves and take care of ourselves. Our caregivers’ voices become our internal voice. We internalize the way they spoke to us as a way … Continue reading When you’re running on an empty bucket
In my latest contribution to good therapy.org, I explore ten questions to ask if you are a toxic person? Do you shame people or try to compete with them when they are struggling or celebrating? Maybe you indulge in attention-seeking behaviors on social media for some "snatch and grab" validation? It is my belief that … Continue reading Are You The Toxic One?
Mindfulness has been a hot topic in our culture for some time now. Magazines have entire issues dedicated to this practice and its benefits. Mindfulness has been shown to decrease feelings of stress and depression, as well as contribute to a general improvement of physical health. Checking in with our thoughts, feelings, body sensations, and … Continue reading The Power of the Present Moment Experience Guest blogger Kristen McGeehon
So let me first start off with a full disclosure, I strongly dislike the word lazy, but I used it to get your attention. The word lazy is shaming and I don’t often see it really helping to get people back on track or back in action. However, I think it is important to have … Continue reading How We can Stay Busy and Be “Lazy” at the Same Time
Happy 4th of July! It’s a day to celebrate the idea of freedom, which of course, means something different to each of us. Freedom from oppression? Freedom from control? Freedom from the “shoulds in our life?” Freedom from what people think of us? Freedom from addiction? What are you celebrating freedom from today? Our population … Continue reading The Collective Mental Health of Our Nation
Do you ever feel as though you’re unable to control your emotions? Or that your emotions are “too much” for any one person to handle? Do you find that it’s easier to lean on “retail therapy” or other impulses rather than opening up and talking about your experience? Perhaps you’ve always struggled with the ability … Continue reading The Real Root Behind a Borderline Personality Disorder Diagnosis BY KRISTEN MCGEEHON
Politics, trauma, racism, sexism, all the other isms, assault, abuse- the outside world can seem brutal at times. These types of trauma can truly take a toll on our systems and can leave us feeling powerless. When we are children, we NEED caregivers and the outside world to help us learn to regulate our … Continue reading Reclaiming Your Power When the Outside World Is Just Wrong.