"'No' is a complete sentence" - Anne Lamont. Boundaries are all the rage these days. You might even call them “trending.” But setting effective boundaries that still honor your relationships is TOUGH. Boundaries aren’t cute or easy and they can call on us to dig into our deepest pain and break old people pleasing patterns … Continue reading What the hell are boundaries? Blog by Gwynaedd Howdyshell
"Self-care" is promoted on the covers of magazines, in online advertisements, and all over social media. A common question I've been asked by clients and peers alike is, "what the hell is, is self-care"? Perhaps you have asked this same question or know you struggle with it. Maybe it feels like another thing on your … Continue reading What the Hell is “Self-Care” Anyway? by Gwynaedd Howdyshell
I decided to ask an open question on my Instagram story to see why the men who followed me were afraid/reluctant to seek therapy. The responses surprised me in comparison to much of the research that I’ve come across. I noticed a lot of toxic masculinity was a common theme and shame was super prevalent. … Continue reading Why The Men In Our Lives Aren’t Sprinting to Therapy (Guest Blog by Gwynaedd Howdyshell)
Happy Pride. Happy Pride y’all. Rainbows are flying, people are starting to be able to come together again to celebrate the many forms of queerness and Madonna, Rhianna, and Lady Gaga are bumping through the airwaves. To my beautiful LGBTQIA+ community, we make the world brighter, more colorful and more creative (try to imagine theater … Continue reading Broken Rainbows: The Long Journey Towards Healing from Anti-Queerness
https://youtu.be/QwSUf8th1_c Many of us (myself included) have often said these well-meaning phrases. Things like “Let go and Let God,” “They’re (your loved ones who have died) are in a better place now,” “God doesn’t give you anymore than you can handle” are intended to “make people feel better,” but when they are in place of … Continue reading “Everything Happens for a Reason,” “This too shall pass,” “Just Let it Go” and other forms of Spiritual Bypassing that Actually do More Harm Than Good.
It can be the thing that we most avoid, it can make us want to run away, shut down, lie, ignore people, drink too much wine and a host of other things. CONFLICT! It is BOUND TO HAPPEN in any relationship that is worth having however. If a relationship cannot withstand conflict, it is probably … Continue reading How to Have Healthier Conflict for Happier Relationships
Drama, drama, drama. You’re having the same argument for the third time this week (and the past 12 weeks), and you can’t seem to get past it. Maybe you’ve quit a third job in 6 months because you cannot seem to get along with your boss or coworkers. If you keep finding yourself in these … Continue reading Are you the Drama Addict?Guest Blog Kristen McGeehon
Ideally, we are supposed to grow up with loving and protective parents that are curious about who we really are, they nurture and support us, they teach us how to protect ourselves and take care of ourselves. Our caregivers’ voices become our internal voice. We internalize the way they spoke to us as a way … Continue reading When you’re running on an empty bucket
In my latest contribution to good therapy.org, I explore ten questions to ask if you are a toxic person? Do you shame people or try to compete with them when they are struggling or celebrating? Maybe you indulge in attention-seeking behaviors on social media for some "snatch and grab" validation? It is my belief that … Continue reading Are You The Toxic One?
Mindfulness has been a hot topic in our culture for some time now. Magazines have entire issues dedicated to this practice and its benefits. Mindfulness has been shown to decrease feelings of stress and depression, as well as contribute to a general improvement of physical health. Checking in with our thoughts, feelings, body sensations, and … Continue reading The Power of the Present Moment Experience Guest blogger Kristen McGeehon