To our beautiful AVOS community, This is the time to be unequivocal. This is the time to pull back the veil on our blind spots and sit in discomfort. We at AVOS are committed to equity, inclusion, diversity and to practicing and becoming an Anti-racist organization. We cannot claim to be a trauma-informed practice without … Continue reading Pulling Back The Veil
REMEMBER THE GREATER GOOD- I hate to admit this, but my first thought when I started realizing this virus was a real concern was “OH NO!- the play I am directing at my son’s school will be canceled.” Then, I remembered that the greater good is more important than that. Remember that we are looking … Continue reading 7 Ways to Still Be a Badass Amidst COVID-19
If you think about our Western culture, and its ideas about love - I mean really break down these ideas, you can see that our view of love is kind of f****ed up! Seriously. Think about your favorite movies that involve romance. How many of those romances involve a love that entails a slow burn, … Continue reading Is it Love or is it Trauma? GUEST BLOG by KRISTEN MCGEEHON!
https://youtu.be/2mZSS1zZthU I see so many posts and memes on “cutting all the toxic people out of your life.” While I am certainly a proponent of healthy boundaries and spending as much time as you can with people that champion you, lift you up and don’t suck every last bit of energy with their vampire ways, … Continue reading When you Can’t Just Cut Toxic People From Your Life
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8HQwoUMt_Co&authuser=0 Self-sabotage, or self defeating behaviors, is essentially any behavior or action that gets in the way of your plans, intentions, or goals - this behavior actually moves you away from your goals and into, more or less, a shame spiral. This looks different for everyone but, generally, it tends to be behaviors such as … Continue reading Hello Self-Sabotage, My Old Friend GUEST BLOG BY KRISTEN MCGEEHON
https://youtu.be/QwSUf8th1_c Many of us (myself included) have often said these well-meaning phrases. Things like “Let go and Let God,” “They’re (your loved ones who have died) are in a better place now,” “God doesn’t give you anymore than you can handle” are intended to “make people feel better,” but when they are in place of … Continue reading “Everything Happens for a Reason,” “This too shall pass,” “Just Let it Go” and other forms of Spiritual Bypassing that Actually do More Harm Than Good.
It can be the thing that we most avoid, it can make us want to run away, shut down, lie, ignore people, drink too much wine and a host of other things. CONFLICT! It is BOUND TO HAPPEN in any relationship that is worth having however. If a relationship cannot withstand conflict, it is probably … Continue reading How to Have Healthier Conflict for Happier Relationships
Perhaps we have someone in our lives that we would consider a “bulldozer.” They seem to always get what they want and have a very hard time accepting “no” for an answer. They are extremely convincing or downright dishonest and/or they only call us when they want something. These are the characteristics that we generally … Continue reading Hate To Tell You “Do-Gooders” But….People Pleasing is Just Another Form of Manipulation
“Travel isn’t always pretty. It isn’t always comfortable. Sometimes it hurts, it even breaks your heart. But that’s okay. The journey changes you; it should change you. It leaves marks on your memory, on your consciousness, on your heart, and on your body. You take something with you. Hopefully, you leave something good behind.” ― Anthony … Continue reading Travel Grows My Ability to Handle Stress (But Here’s How You can Practice the Same Strategy)
Some people may have narcissistic parents or are in romantic relationships or friendships with narcissists. If you recognize some of these signs, it is likely that this person will have very little self-awareness. Of course, I am in the business of believing that people can change, but remember- you can’t change others. They will likely … Continue reading Why Your Relationship Might Be At The Root of You Not Ever Feeling Good Enough: Top 10 Signs of Narcissistic Abuse.