Happy 4th of July! It’s a day to celebrate the idea of freedom, which of course, means something different to each of us. Freedom from oppression? Freedom from control? Freedom from the “shoulds in our life?” Freedom from what people think of us? Freedom from addiction? What are you celebrating freedom from today? Our population … Continue reading The Collective Mental Health of Our Nation
Do you ever feel as though you’re unable to control your emotions? Or that your emotions are “too much” for any one person to handle? Do you find that it’s easier to lean on “retail therapy” or other impulses rather than opening up and talking about your experience? Perhaps you’ve always struggled with the ability … Continue reading The Real Root Behind a Borderline Personality Disorder Diagnosis BY KRISTEN MCGEEHON
Politics, trauma, racism, sexism, all the other isms, assault, abuse- the outside world can seem brutal at times. These types of trauma can truly take a toll on our systems and can leave us feeling powerless. When we are children, we NEED caregivers and the outside world to help us learn to regulate our … Continue reading Reclaiming Your Power When the Outside World Is Just Wrong.
Check out my latest goodtherapy blog- this one’s particularly personal with Mother’s Day and the anniversary of my mom’s death coming up. This day can be so complicated for so many of us and the month's article explores the many ways this day could land for us. Perhaps it's a Day of celebration and joy, … Continue reading Mother’s Day and Mental Health
“I’m not enough. I don’t have enough. I don’t have enough time. I don’t have enough energy. I am not skinny enough, pretty enough, young enough, happy enough, grateful enough….” The list goes on and on if you struggle with scarcity mentality. As I was processing with a client who was struggling with some of … Continue reading Why Trauma Might be at the Root of Your Scarcity Mentality
https://youtu.be/4bGYIH5KMQM First, a story. It’s back-to-school night and me, my partner (who is also a woman) and our two sons are introducing ourselves to other kids and families. One of the children says, “You can’t have two moms.” We say, “yes- all families look different. Kids can have two moms, two dads, or one parent, … Continue reading Should I talk to my young children about gay and transgender-identified people?
https://youtu.be/qTCCYLcQjWM When I was 20, I did not have children, I was single and I was managing a restaurant, which gave me plenty of expendable income and flexibility. I would make decisions in a flash. Decision-making was a skill that I took for granted. I would decide to go travel. I would decide to go … Continue reading There Are No Perfect Decisions: How to make “good enough” decisions instead.
Below is a link to my article published on goodtherapy.org. This article explores how our the many ways we adapt to pain, numbing, avoiding, getting angry, staying overly busy, all of these become our biggest strengths AND they also get in our own way. Many times the strategies that we use to survive pain become … Continue reading Honoring Our Armor
https://youtu.be/ERIrhC-RG_0 We all know the stereotypical teenager- aloof, full of angst, snarky, sarcastic, and moody. “It’s just a phase” should perhaps be tattooed on the parents of teens everywhere. Of course, there is some “normal” testing of boundaries and trying to figure out who they are separate from their family, questioning cultural norms and being … Continue reading “Oh That’s Normal” The Price of Minimizing Trauma in Teenagers
When a person has unresolved pain, trauma or loss, they are often left feeling fragmented. One part of them might long for connection, the other part keeps people at a safe distance and pushes loved ones away. One part of the person might be very professional and “put together” at work, but then may come … Continue reading Working Towards an Integrated, Empowered Self: How EMDR can pair with parts work therapy