“Everything Happens for a Reason,” “This too shall pass,” “Just Let it Go” and other forms of Spiritual Bypassing that Actually do More Harm Than Good.

Many of us (myself included) have often said these well-meaning phrases.  Things like “Let go and Let God,” “They’re (your loved ones who have died) are in a better place now,” “God doesn’t give you anymore than you can handle” are intended to “make people feel better,” but when they are in place of acknowledging … Continue reading “Everything Happens for a Reason,” “This too shall pass,” “Just Let it Go” and other forms of Spiritual Bypassing that Actually do More Harm Than Good.

Religious Refugees: 10 signs of a toxic Spiritual Environment

People are beginning to leave toxic spiritual environments as a result of feeling judged, shamed, mistreated, demeaned or even abused.  I call these folks religious refugees.  It can feel lonely and scary to leave a toxic community.  Even though there might be deep pain there, they may provide your only sense of community.  Here are … Continue reading Religious Refugees: 10 signs of a toxic Spiritual Environment