“I’m not enough. I don’t have enough. I don’t have enough time. I don’t have enough energy. I am not skinny enough, pretty enough, young enough, happy enough, grateful enough….” The list goes on and on if you struggle with scarcity mentality. As I was processing with a client who was struggling with some of … Continue reading Why Trauma Might be at the Root of Your Scarcity Mentality
Did You knot that April is Child Abuse Prevention Month? Here is a link to my article on goodtherapy.org that outlines five tips to talking to kids about sexual abuse. When we talk to our children calmly, openly and honestly about their bodies, we significantly reduce their chances of becoming victimized. Some of the key … Continue reading How to Talk to Kids About Sexual Abuse
When was the last time you made a really bad mistake? A week ago? Yesterday? Two minutes ago? We are all human and we all make mistakes. If you have a hard time owning when you make a mistake, it is likely that you were overly criticized, over-powered or expected to be perfect to feel … Continue reading 6 Steps to Take When You Make a Mistake
https://youtu.be/4bGYIH5KMQM First, a story. It’s back-to-school night and me, my partner (who is also a woman) and our two sons are introducing ourselves to other kids and families. One of the children says, “You can’t have two moms.” We say, “yes- all families look different. Kids can have two moms, two dads, or one parent, … Continue reading Should I talk to my young children about gay and transgender-identified people?
https://youtu.be/qTCCYLcQjWM When I was 20, I did not have children, I was single and I was managing a restaurant, which gave me plenty of expendable income and flexibility. I would make decisions in a flash. Decision-making was a skill that I took for granted. I would decide to go travel. I would decide to go … Continue reading There Are No Perfect Decisions: How to make “good enough” decisions instead.
Below is a link to my article published on goodtherapy.org. This article explores how our the many ways we adapt to pain, numbing, avoiding, getting angry, staying overly busy, all of these become our biggest strengths AND they also get in our own way. Many times the strategies that we use to survive pain become … Continue reading Honoring Our Armor
https://youtu.be/ERIrhC-RG_0 We all know the stereotypical teenager- aloof, full of angst, snarky, sarcastic, and moody. “It’s just a phase” should perhaps be tattooed on the parents of teens everywhere. Of course, there is some “normal” testing of boundaries and trying to figure out who they are separate from their family, questioning cultural norms and being … Continue reading “Oh That’s Normal” The Price of Minimizing Trauma in Teenagers
When a person has unresolved pain, trauma or loss, they are often left feeling fragmented. One part of them might long for connection, the other part keeps people at a safe distance and pushes loved ones away. One part of the person might be very professional and “put together” at work, but then may come … Continue reading Working Towards an Integrated, Empowered Self: How EMDR can pair with parts work therapy
There are many of us therapist types out there that are also certified yoga instructors. For me, these roles inform and enhance one another so beautifully. Because I work with trauma and with the brave and beautiful people who have unresolved wounds from their past, yoga can be such a powerful process for healing. Yoga … Continue reading Yoga for Healing Trauma
https://youtu.be/Hnb0ZtftIs4 New Year’s has always been one of my favorite holidays. I love the idea of a fresh start and a reset button. So many of us start the year off with resolutions that inevitably peter out come February. Sometimes setting simple, one-word intentions can be a more sustainable way to check-in with our selves … Continue reading 10 Sustainable, Life-Changing Intentions for 2018